Long, long ago, in a galaxy far away (well it seems like it now, anyway) I crossed one of my many “rules of relationships” lines back then, and became “more than friends” with a business acquaintance I had known for years. We sailed through the 3 month “honeymoon phase” like champions. Toothbrushes were involved. His kids were involved. We clicked like magic. We were quite the perfectly happy tribe. Then on the first day of the 4th month—he was gone.
Abandoned. Angry. Perplexed. Confused. Used. Betrayed. Violated. Disregarded…and… DUMPED are just a few of the descriptive words I would choose to articulate how I felt that day. And the next day. And the next….
There was no phone call. No “last talk”. No “thanks for the memories” or “things have changed.” No nothing. Just gone. Of course, I couldn’t let things go without doing something, and this was all I could think of to do at the time, way back
when.
Dear ??????
Although it seems you can coast through life without bringing closure to situations and circumstances, I can’t, and I have something to say……
I think it is terrible of you to not at least offer an explanation to me of what changed for you, and why you’ve up and left. It devastates me to learn that you apparently feel so little for me that you are willing to throw everything away, including any chance of remaining friends.
What changed? I have no idea what has happened between us. I sure would like to know. Was everything you said to me a complete lie? Was our entire relationship all just some game for you? Was I a complete fool to believe in you? I thought we had something real; something special. Silly me.
How could you say all those things you said, worked so hard to convince me how you felt, and then betray it all, my faith and trust in you and my feelings for you this way? How dare you take advantage of me like that! Why ??? Why? Are you ever going to come forward and tell me? Or just take the easy immature way out and not ever communicate the truth? How could you do this? Why? And why did you pick ME?
I don’t understand. I want to understand. You have not been fair. As angry and hurt as I am, I cannot bring myself to hate you. I simply feel sorry for you. I feel so sorry for you. I hope you someday figure out what it is you are looking for. And, I’d really appreciate you at least giving me a clue what went wrong.
Wherever life leads you next, ????? , please try to learn this one simple phrase…
Respect for Self
Respect for Others
Responsibility for All Actions
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