What If?

Bucket of Limitless PossibilitiesFirst quarter 2012 proved to be especially challenging for me. An injury I endured all fall wasn’t getting any better, resulting in Doctor visits and treatments that ended up going on for months. So did the bills.

Then my prized hunting partner–the four-legged man of the house–became very ill, almost died, and required hundreds of dollars of treatment and surgery to bring him back to prime condition.

Then one of my sweet little Lhasa girls went lame with a ruptured ACL and required surgery followed by months of recovery–and bills.  Throughout this chaos the demands of work remained constant.  The demands of my personal life remained unaddressed.  If this was any indication of what was in store for me the rest of the year…..

Then in second quarter, the epiphany came.  WHAT IF?  What if I only had 5 years left?  What if I only had a year left?  What if this is my boys last good year in the field?  It jolted me into a new perspective.  Would I have any regrets?  I realized I was at a crossroads and didn’t like what I saw.

Time for a bucket list, and a plan.  We get one pass through life and everything wonderful about it is there for us if we choose to go get it.  The possibilities are endless!

Willing

I want to do this!     Okay.     

I will if you will.      Okay.     

You first.      No, you.     

You.      No, really, you.      No, you.

 

How often have you wanted to do something, but you…just….. don’t…. do it? Maybe it’s going to an event, or purchasing something, or asking for an opportunity, or meeting someone you’re interested in? You want to, but you just can’t do what it takes to get it.

What stops you from being willing?

What. Stops. You?

Is it because of something else going on in your world? An unresolved situation? Is it because of someone else? Something they said or did? What causes you to not move forward? What force or forces do you blame for stopping you from being willing to go get what you want? Ahhh, there’s that word…..blame.

How easy it is to blame outside forces for blocking us from achieving our goals. How misguided we are for believing outside forces are actually the reason—because they aren’t.Willing We are what stops us every time.

Yes.

We are the cause.

When I first started my business, it was because I couldn’t find advertisers for the magazine I sold advertising space for. I was very good at my job. I did everything right; made hundreds of calls, sent dozens of proposals, did countless follow-ups and visits but just couldn’t get enough business signed. Most of the industry I worked in was composed of small, small businesses without big ad budgets. Tired, frustrated and deflated, I started to give up. I started questioning my own ability. I blamed my situation on the market. Those businesses had too many options, and not enough sales. Everyone echoed the same sentiments.

Then one day when I was panicking about another space deadline short of budget, my mentor asked me what I was willing to do to succeed. “What if all these small businesses had an affordable option for help with marketing and advertising? Isn’t that what you know best? Would you be willing to become that affordable option?”

Oh yes, I felt the sting of that slap.

But the clouds parted, the sun burst out, and mercy me, the light came on in my world!

Become their affordable option!

Yes it was a risk.

Yes it was a lot of extra work.

But,

Yes, I was willing to do it

Within the year, the magazine grew to record size, and ‘PR Brady, that Advertising Lady’ was born. I developed the reputation of being a dedicated caring partner, a trusted advisor, willing to go the extra mile to help my customers succeed. After all, when they did, so did I.

And we all lived happily ever after. I look back on those early days and have to smile. Wow, what if I would have given up, unwilling to try a new approach?

If you are not achieving your goals, check yourself. We alone stop ourselves from getting what we want. We are the real cause of our problem. We have the ability and the power to choose, yet we make the choice that stops us in our tracks. We assign our ’cause’ the undeserving importance it invades our mind with. We cannot change events that occur in life, but we always have the choice of how to respond. We have the right to take charge of our life and be willing to see things differently. See the path to achieve the goal.

It all starts with just being willing.

Are you willing to do what it takes?

Willingness to change something ignites the ability to change it.

Consider being willing.

 

Limitless PossibilitiesThank you for reading my post. What do you dream about seeing, doing, being? Got a bucket list? Want to start one? What are you waiting for? I’d love to hear your thoughts! I’d love to help you get there! All comments are greatly appreciated. The first step to believing ‘opportunities are endless’ is sometimes not as hard if you grab some inspiration under in my blog category, “Bucket of Limitless Possibilities”. If you like what you see, please let me know by “liking” my website. Check out my services. You can even join my tribe to automatically receive new postings ‘hot off the press’. As always, please feel free to share my information with others who may find interest and value in PR Brady AdVentures! Thanks again!

 

Open for Consideration

“There are some people that if they don’t know, you can’t tell ‘em.”

Louis Armstrong

Funny how life works.  As we are growing up, we might begin to develop our ideas of what we want our life to be about, and eventually we start out on our path.  We reach out a few times to grab those first obvious essentials on Maslows Hierarchy of Needs list, but then life sort of just unfolds a routine out for us.  It just happens, right?  And maybe a year, or 5 or 10 years, or many years later, we look up from our ‘life’ wondering why it’s not as we thought it would be? Or maybe, we never Open4Considerationdo look up.

I’ll never forget the day I looked up.  As though a bolt of lightening struck me between the ears, suddenly one day I realized what I didn’t do with my life.  And for how long.  And what I lost out on in the process.  I was zapped into reality! The time that passed….what I had done, and not done with it.  Oh it was alarming! I felt the sharp, stinging pangs of fear.  The pangs of failure.  The pangs of loss, and hopelessness.

Yes, I owned it, and wallowed in it for about a day. Well, maybe a couple of days.  Okay, a week, tops.

It was then that I started recalling the words of countless wise people who had tried to advise me years earlier.  Have a plan.  Seize the day.  Life is short…….I hadn’t listened.

Eventually that fear catapulted me into action.  Uncharted waters, a brand new path, and eventually into an amazing journey of a lifetime.

We all will spend our lives doing something. What do you want that something to be for you?

Are you living your dream?  Are you living an authentic, whole life—the life you’ve always hoped for?  Does the question make you uncomfortable?  Scare you?  Perhaps shoot pangs of excitement through your body?

If the question itself knocks you out of your comfort zone, you might be sleeping.

It can happen to anyone.  There’s no shame in not knowing how time passed without your dreams being fulfilled.  We do the best we can with what we have been given.  Some of us think we’ve got life by the balls, only to have that ball bounce out of sight along with our dreams.  And no one is going to tell us any different.  In my case, I didn’t know what I didn’t know.  In my 20’s, I didn’t recognize how finite life was.  But once reality clubbed me over the head, I listened, learned and challenged myself to change, refusing to let outside, or inside forces squelch my heart’s desire.

In order to really live the life of your dreams, you’ve got to wake up, and go to work.

My fear became my fuel, and I started burning bright.  I didn’t need to have all the answers.  I needed to be open to the possibilities.

Getting closer to your dream life may mean changing something about you.  A core belief or habit that you’ve held, all your life up to right now….

Changing a habit is hard work.

It requires taking action.  It requires consistent effort.

But you can choose to do it.

For starters, why not challenge yourself?

For starters, simply choose to keep your mind open for consideration.

Limitless PossibilitiesThank you for reading my post.  What do you dream about seeing, doing, being?  Got a bucket list? Want to start one?  What are you waiting for?  I’d love to hear your thoughts!  I’d love to help you get there!  All comments are greatly appreciated.  The first step to believing ‘opportunities are endless’ is sometimes not as hard if you grab some inspiration under in my blog category, “Bucket of Limitless Possibilities”.  If you like what you see, please let me know by “liking” my website.  Check out my services.  You can even join my tribe to automatically receive new postings ‘hot off the press’.  As always, please feel free to share my information with others who may find interest and value in PR Brady AdVentures!  Thanks again!

 

20140101The Bucket List Part 2

Here we are again, with another New Year under our belts, looking at what we’re doing, reflecting back on what we’ve done, and evaluating our choices moving forward. Me, I’ve been examining how my new direction has been playing out.  Hello, 2014.  My life plan is rolling out quite nicely.  Happy New Year. 

No more reacting to the world around me, but instead, living with purpose. Letting go is difficult.  Change is scary. It’s not easy to leave one’s comfort zone, but I’ve done it. Having a life plan, and living with purpose provides a feeling of control over life, amidst all of the things we have no control over.  I am rewarded with a life filled with adventure, freedom and joy.

I continue to not be one to generate a “starting next year, I’m not going to ……” list, or the classic New Year’s Resolutions list.  Instead, I pause to look back and remind myself of the lessons learned the past year.  Things look a little different after doing a better job of taking charge of my life.  Taking heed to those lessons, and applying them forward, helps me to stay on track with my plan, with grace and humility.

Top 20 Lessons I’ve learned in 2013:

  1. With loss, whether material or emotional, there is always a gain somewhere to balance the blow; you just have to look deep enough to find it.
  2. Giving, for the sheer sake of ‘random act of kindness’ giving, is the only way to truly give of yourself.  The key to successful giving is to absolutely not expect anything at all in return.  Otherwise, you are not giving, but generating an “exchange” (clearly one sided), and if the receiving party is typical, chances are, you will be disappointed.
  3. The GPS isn’t always right.  Knowing how to read an actual map is priceless.
  4. In my case “Leap, and the net will appear.” has proved to be true every time I’ve  jumped.  Trust yourself, your instincts, your higher power, and the system. The net is not always easily identifiable, but it is always there.
  5. There is wealth of guidance, lessons and general information just waiting to be tapped into from the minds and hearts of those older than you.
  6. Some people are never going to agree with or understand you or your beliefs.  Rather than try to change them, their views, or their perceptions, walk away knowing you choose the high road.
  7. True kinship does not necessarily mean you need to maintain an ongoing active relationship with everyone in your world, but when you do come together it’s as though you were never gone.  Family is a relative term that can be used to describe people in your network as you see fit.
  8. If you’re doing all the initiating, it’s probably not a healthy situation.
  9. Recognizing harmful people and circumstances, accepting them as such and letting go early on, only saves you that much more energy for the wonderful people and experiences that enrich your life.  Health is everything, physical, emotional and mental.
  10. Letting go of things I thought I couldn’t live without, in order to start something I know I cannot live without, is not so hard after all.  Individual wants and perceptions often loose importance when considered against a Life Plan.  If it’s not part of the solution, it’s likely part of the problem.  Click. Gone. Done.
  11. Not all business opportunities are what they seem. If it feels like you’re going to get burned, you probably will.
  12. The power of “No.” It’s not just a negative word.  It is also an empowering, word that brings freedom, honesty, and can even strengthen and help others when used properly.  Never be afraid to “just say no”.
  13. No matter how you slice it, people choose to make time for what’s important to them.  Read between the lines.  Zero tolerance for excuses.
  14. Just because you can see the potential, doesn’t mean the other guys can.  Just because they can’t see it today, doesn’t mean they won’t tomorrow.  If tomorrow comes and they refuse to look, chalk it up to another beautiful fantasy vision on your part, and move on.  You can’t want it “for” them, they have to want it for themselves, and not everyone does.
  15. Everything earthly is temporary.  Over reacting doesn’t change that.
  16. “Please” and “Thank You” are two of the most important, and seem to have become the least used phrases in the human language. Saying them can make a person’s day. Not saying them can end up ruining yours. Saying them and actually meaning them, not only shows respect and gratitude to the person you’re addressing, but demonstrates to them you are genuine, and appreciate their gestures.
  17. There are only 24 hours in a day.  It’s okay to plan some things for tomorrow.
  18. Forgive and Forget doesn’t work unless you do both parts.  If you can’t forget, you haven’t truly forgiven.  No one has the power to conquer the invisible wall, and it’s not fair to put one up. Tear down the wall and keep in mind, not forgiving is a very heavy burden to carry.
  19. There is always another way.  Always.
  20. Although it’s hard to imagine, 99% of everything is a choice. It all starts with choosing how you respond to what happens next. 

That said, I continue to approach things with enthusiasm, and conviction.  Sure, a few micro adjustments will be implemented along the way.  But I can say wholeheartedly that life is good, life is rich, with laughter, love and joy.  I am blessed with good health, wonderful people I love to pieces, opportunity that excites and inspires me, and a strong sense of self to power me forward fearlessly.

I wish this for everyone in 2014 and beyond.

Happy New Year!

Stay tuned, How To Create a Life Plan 101 is coming soon…